Would you date someone that was HIV positive? Have you dated someone that was HIV positive? Are you with someone that is HIV positive?
A few months ago (around my birthday) I made an Adam4Adam account. After being touched by Jesus (literally) I felt compelled to indulge in a random fling or two. Well, after about two dates I gave that up. I’m so not the hooky uppy type.
Well, let’s fast forward to a few months later, some gentlemen hit up my old account a week ago. Anyway, bypassing all the details, this guy turned out to be really fabulous. Granted, I’m just basing it off of appearance. When he opened up his pictures I thought, “Oh my goodness!” He’s really tall, slim, and VERY handsome (in a professional GQ type of way), I’m talking WHIP APPEAL handsome (i.e. “Chile, I got WHIP LASH turnin round to look at that man!”). He’s older (like in his 40′s) and had a wonderful grasp of the english lexicon (he could actually complete sentences! Something you don’t find a lot on A4A).
So, after talking to him for a minute, I read his profile in depth. The first thing that jumped out at me was his HIV status. Like a neon sign “POSITIVE” just jumped out at me like an exploding supernova. “Oh my god…” I thought. It threw me for a loop that’s for sure.
Granted, I think it’s righteous that he knows his status and is honest about it. However, I admit that dating an HIV positive guy has never been high up on my list of wants, needs, dreams, and desires. Personally, I’m all for people finding true love; however, I don’t think I could be completely free–sexually–with someone HIV positive. I’m not a bigot. That’s just how I feel right now.
Well, he wants to meet me in person oneday. I’m thinking I would like to be his platonic friend.